The thing about using the Internet to try to get it in is that you then have to talk to people on the Internet in the process, which we all know can be just terrible. This invariably leads to encounters with trolls of all genres, and thus results in interactions such as the one pictured below. If you’re not following the Bye, Felipe Movement, get over to their Instagram and catch up – it’s a gallery of dudes having meltdowns when their online dating efforts don’t go as planned.
By attaching your compatibility to your age, location and profile pic with v. minimal additional data, you’re casting this incredibly wide net that’s bound to bring back some casualties. My hope is that the ‘Bye Felipe’ exercise draws some attention to the impact male trolling is having on what I believe to be a most worthy cause, people trying to connect with one another and possibly get it in. To me, this movement asks every Felipe put on blast to stop acting afool so we can get to the part where we fall in love or just bang one out for good measure.
The more I gaze out upon the American landscape of modern dating, the more recurring patterns I notice. It seems like a lot of men project the idea of women as disingenuine diva-ass-bitches with unreasonable standards always looking for the next hotter/richer/better hung thing to come along, and women project the idea that men are only interested in their bodies, so they play into that and thus come off ass disingenuine. It’s a vicious cycle and the only way to break it is to be vulnerable.
This is the part of my article where I normally ask myself what I can do to help the cause, and really enthusiastically get behind it, but I feel myself holding back right now. Because I don’t want to be Tinderella or get so serious about dating I need to spend time thoughtfully filling out a profile that genuinely represents my personality. I don’t want to have an occasion to Bye, Felipe anyone (although the sense of solidarity does make the trolls seem less scary), but I do want to be part of evolved human connection on the URL -> IRL front. Holy fuck, I guess I have to do it – I have to be where the Felipes are and walk all this walk I’m so casually talking RN.
Fuck it – swipe you soon <3