I could go a lifetime without discussing this year’s HARD Summer trailer again and it would be too soon, but I feel in the interest of 1. being my most authentic self, 2. promoting unity in our musical community, and 3. shaking off the Fear & Loathing lingering in my soul about the whole thing, I need to tie this debacle off or kill myself slowly by continuing to engage in the debate.
Wait no… can’t make jokes about suicide, that’s way worse than putting boobs on dudes, which I know now is not ok and will never be ok. It’s also not ok for me to have the opinion that it is ok because that’s not an ok opinion to have, the court of public opinion has decreed. I can’t believe I’ve been reduced to sarcasm, which my hero Rick Rubin says is an incredibly detrimental form of humor that depresses the spirit of its proponents – I can attest to this.
According to the rules of the court of public opinion’s shame-athon, this is the part where I apologize and slink away, so forgive me for being a little salty about it. But for real, it’s not my job to defend the trailer, it’s the job of the people who created and starred in it! Yet every DJ who had the balls to put on tits seemingly didn’t have ‘em to defend their performance, not a word from one of them – they slunk away the minute the backlash started.
We’re better than this, I know it. To anyone I was combative towards in my rush to defend Agata’s work, I humbly apologize. You can’t tell someone their perspective is invalid, and just because I don’t understand that perspective logically doesn’t mean it’s any less important or grounded than my own. Ironically I’m the last person to ever hang a hat on HARD logic (HA!), I think the emotionality of subjective truth in any situation is where the real story usually lies. In my efforts to make sure I wasn’t crazy last week, I actually drew a map to identify the location of the gap in logic found in some of the more aggressive arguments against my point of view, turns out trying to be right helps nothing/only makes me feel more crazy.
It’s a lot easier to fight for what you believe in than to simply live up to it. I believe subjective experience is more important and real to human beings than logic. I believe we optimize existence by choosing kindness and empathy over righteousness. The value of the conversations started by this fuckin’ thing can’t be measured, the number of promoters who are going to see and hear about this then book more women, and maybe will do it without publicly patting themselves on the back, can’t be measured. Everyone yelling at me to empathize with their perspective while telling me how ignorant mine is seems pretty un-empathetic, just sayin’. I’m ready to agree to disagree and hope you are too.
For anyone offended by that Ron Burgundy gif I’m legit sorry, the truth is making myself laugh right now feels really good, please let me have this one.